Tuesday, September 27, 2011

Mr. & Mrs. Dyer

To many of you, it’s just another Tuesday.  And in all honesty, it feels that way to me as well… but then I remind myself of the fact that I am now a MARRIED woman…. 18 days down, eternity to go!  I’ve had a few people ask me if it feels any different to be married, and in all honesty, it feels so natural to be at this point in my life, and even more so that Geoff and I are here together.  My expectations for marriage were quite straightforward: I wanted a relationship with my husband that allowed for mutual respect and trust, open and honest communication, and for there to be an understanding that we would have to WORK at this marriage in order for it to be successful.  While our relationship has met all of these expectations, I have also come to appreciate the simple fact that we enjoy each other’s company – we are, in the most cliché of terms, “best friends” – and I am incredibly grateful and truly blessed to be married to such a wonderful husband.  Yes, we are still getting used to referring to each other as “husband” and “wife” (and especially for me as “Mrs. Dyer”) but as I’ve started the tedious process of changing my name so I have become more and more used to seeing my name as Laura Dyer. One thing I will say – you really have no idea how much your identity has to “change” when you decide to change your name…. yes the driver’s license, social security card, and passport… but it goes further than that – health records, business loyalty cards, online accounts… I never realized how many places my name has been recorded and stored… and now I have to change them all, one by one.  At least I’ll have this new project to keep me busy :)

I wish I had more time before the wedding to sit down and write a bit about the nervousness/excitement/anxiety I was experiencing, but unfortunately, those last few weeks were a bit overwhelming.  I was confident with the planning and preparation I had done, but of course, there are SO many things that cannot be addressed until the last minute.  Thankfully I had the help of friends and family, and we were able to get it all pulled together just in time. 

As I reached the last 24 hours of my single life, I allowed myself to acknowledge my fears as I approached my wedding day – it wasn’t a fear of losing my identity or of giving up my independence, and it definitely wasn’t a fear that my cake/flowers/decorations wouldn’t turn out how I had pictured (because I knew that no matter how they turned out, the end result would be the same)… rather, it was simply a fear that our guests wouldn’t appreciate the importance of that day and what it meant to Geoff and I.  My biggest issue with living in Utah is the way that many people have become “desensitized” to the true meaning and importance of weddings.  But I don’t want to get started on that soapbox issue… rather, I want to focus on how special that day was, and share with you some of my personal thoughts and feelings :)

My wedding was never meant to be “the biggest, most important day of my life” – that level of hype would only lead to disappointment.  Looking back, it was definitely the most beautiful day I could have ever imagined for my wedding, but as with all weddings – it ended before I really had a chance to breathe.  I remember the anticipation of that morning, putting the final details around the lodge before the florist and caterer arrived… folding programs for the ceremony… laughing and enjoying time with my best girl friends Brenn and Meghan… and then the time came for me to sit in the chair for my hair and makeup.  That was when my nerves really started to rev up… I was doing okay running around, distracting myself from what was to come… but the moment I sat still, I really had time to process what I was getting ready for.  And that couple hours before the ceremony began were probably the longest couple hours of my life.  Then it was time.  Time to take that walk down the aisle… the longest, most anxiety-provoking walk of my life.  :)  I remember waiting at the top of the stairs… then meeting my dad to wait for our cue to walk towards my future – and my future husband.  My favorite memories of that day were the moments when I was standing still (probably because those are the only moments that weren’t a blur in my mind).  Standing on the top of that grassy hill with Geoff – I never felt such peace, such comfort, such assurance that I was making the right decision.  I was completely content, and couldn’t help but think how blessed I was to be marrying a man like Geoff.  And just as quickly as it began, I was kissing my husband and walking back down the aisle as Mrs. Dyer.  Such a joyous moment – it couldn’t have been any more perfect.  Then photos… endless photos… thankfully we had done some of our individual shots (those of just Geoff and I) earlier in the week, so we weren’t rushed to get all the photos done that day.  Probably one of the best decisions I made, to be honest.  Some people are more traditional, but my thoughts from the beginning were more focused on being married and that the wedding was just an event to enjoy with family and friends, so little details/traditions really didn’t matter to me.  But there were a few traditions that I wanted to experience with Geoff and those who came to share the day with us.  After our photos, we came in for our first dance to the song “Give in to Me” from the movie Country Strong.  Geoff and I watched that movie on one of our first dates, and that song quickly became one of our personal favorites.  That was another of my favorite memories – dancing with my husband, surrounded by family and friends… I couldn’t ask for anything more than that.  Then it was time for toasts and cake – I’d say the cake was one of my favorite “pieces” of the night, only because of the topper that Geoff had chosen :) So perfect for us – we had to bring in a bit of humor!  And I definitely had the last laugh… I never told Geoff that it was my dream to stuff my wedding cake in my husband’s face…. Hahahaha he never saw it coming!  It was too easy… I just had to!  Good thing the cake was delicious ;)  While the cake was being cut and served, we finally had time to spend with our guests… but of course, time was not on our side.  Before I knew it, we were heading upstairs to prepare for our grand exit.   One of my only requests from Geoff was that we ride off on a motorcycle J  He made arrangements to borrow his friend’s bike for our short drive to Snowbird’s Cliff Lodge (just a mile down the road), and we coordinated our outfits to match: black leather jackets and jeans.  I was smiling ear to ear as we made our way through the sparklers and sat down on our getaway ride.  The perfect ending to a perfect evening.  And it wasn’t over yet – the next morning, we were up early to prepare for our “Open House” at Sugar House Park.  I may have been a little resentful of our decision to have a mid-day reception as I was pulling myself out of bed that morning, but after we had finished decorating and started welcoming our guests, I was grateful to have a more relaxed atmosphere to spend time mingling with those friends and family that came out.  And I heard from many people that they really liked our idea – no need to have a formal event, especially if it really doesn’t match our personalities.  So we were quite pleased with how it all turned out :)  And I know our guests enjoyed it as well, especially Kneader’s French toast and the photo booth!  But again, before I knew it, we were packing up and heading home… and just like that, our wedding was simply a happy memory.  Kinda crazy, thinking about how much time I had spent planning for it… but thankfully the planning paid off!  I just can’t wait to see our photos, so I can see the details from Friday night that I didn’t have time to see for myself.  I’ve heard from many of our guests that it was a beautiful event, so for now I’m taking their word for it :)  But, here are a few of our photos for you to enjoy....




 

And with that, I’ll leave you all – it’s quite a long entry, and while I could write more, I’ll leave some for another day.  Without a job (or a wedding to plan) my days are a little more open and flexible, so I’m sure I’ll be back on here to update you all soon enough.  Especially with some exciting changes in our family in the next week… Greg reports to the MTC next week!  :)  So, until next time…  Much love!

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